tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15437418.post4331419382969976527..comments2024-01-05T06:22:43.015+00:00Comments on Rocking Chair Reflections: Woman to WomanLindshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17141761866483224572noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15437418.post-74224163175010642002007-10-28T22:49:00.000+00:002007-10-28T22:49:00.000+00:00Quite a post you have written here Linds. As you a...Quite a post you have written here Linds. As you are so in the midst of grieving for such a recent and close loss as your husband I almost feel a fraud for commenting. However I will.<BR/>I have had many people to grieve over in my life but not a husband so I think the hardest was my Mother. Her manner of death was traumatic (won't go into it here - that will come in my story) but I had never Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05799594980600477320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15437418.post-35568286078889608812007-10-25T20:52:00.000+01:002007-10-25T20:52:00.000+01:00I feel stunned after reading this post, Linds. Thi...I feel stunned after reading this post, Linds. This is so completely honest that it's moved me to tears.<BR/><BR/>I've lost a brother and a mother-in-law. I still have my parents and my husband. I truly cannot imagine what you've been through and are still going through.<BR/><BR/>This post is so raw and honest, it's an inspiration.Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13078572615133867629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15437418.post-37256021614719977012007-10-25T05:16:00.000+01:002007-10-25T05:16:00.000+01:00Hi Linds,This was such a moving post on the grief ...Hi Linds,<BR/>This was such a moving post on the grief you've experienced. I can relate on a few levels, but as I've told you before, I'm totally unprepared to deal with the grief of losing my husband.<BR/> I'd also be interested in reading your list of suggestions. <BR/>You'll be in my prayers... <BR/>xoSusiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00024132046092264711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15437418.post-60656381379557325982007-10-24T20:07:00.000+01:002007-10-24T20:07:00.000+01:00Linds - Thank you for sharing your ever honest fe...Linds - Thank you for sharing your ever honest feelings and emotions. I would like to see the list you've made too. I just want you to know that I hold you close in prayer and will be one of the network around you in all the days ahead. ((( Hugs )))Crystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04273314911940422824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15437418.post-58357120843913394062007-10-24T15:36:00.000+01:002007-10-24T15:36:00.000+01:00Such a lovely, and very powerful post.Such a lovely, and very powerful post.Denisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09275456448997619944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15437418.post-84979432218318976262007-10-24T15:02:00.000+01:002007-10-24T15:02:00.000+01:00Me again. On a lighter note - can't wait to hear ...Me again. On a lighter note - can't wait to hear about your blogger friend MIRL! <BR/><BR/>When I have that problem with paragraphs, I have to in to HTML and put an extra space between paragraphs. Works for me.Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14938607712512860569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15437418.post-83633367601652273102007-10-24T15:00:00.000+01:002007-10-24T15:00:00.000+01:00I have not experienced any of the scenarios except...I have not experienced any of the scenarios except losing my father in law. And my grandparents. None of these things has affected me in a way that I could even write about. Sadly, maybe. But I know my day is coming. I think I'll keep a copy of this post close by for when it comes. I hope you do post the do's and don'ts for us, because we need to know. I have watched two people close to meDawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14938607712512860569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15437418.post-12559166515503853562007-10-24T14:37:00.000+01:002007-10-24T14:37:00.000+01:00What a heartfelt sincere post. Thank you so much f...What a heartfelt sincere post. Thank you so much for sharing your true feelings. I lost my mate 4 years ago suddenly. It is so frightening...it does take time to grieve and you will do it in stages. My first way of dealing with it was to accept that I was not in control of my life...God was. At a one point I know...you think how could he have let this happen to me .... and now? That's normal to Granhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15008087580310335512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15437418.post-38069879556335611322007-10-24T12:34:00.000+01:002007-10-24T12:34:00.000+01:00As always, Linds, you did yourself proud on this o...As always, Linds, you did yourself proud on this one!!!<BR/><BR/>This is what really jumped out at me: <BR/><BR/>"And then, of course, there is the biggest part of dealing with grief, or loss, and that is the extent of your faith. I have had to learn that I am not in control of my life, and that is a terrifying thought at first. I lived with the delusion that I was in control, even though I had aSusanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11360047123820906113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15437418.post-62215212099737493652007-10-24T07:57:00.000+01:002007-10-24T07:57:00.000+01:00I'm glad I met your dad and I'm glad I went to see...I'm glad I met your dad and I'm glad I went to see him and held his hand when he was ill. I know it was very unlikely he knew who I was but I thought maybe the physical contact and warmth of another human being might have been comforting in a confusing time. I never used to think about death very much but now it hits me out of the blue when I lie in bed at night. It makes me think about thingsHungry Hippohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00736169491461917100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15437418.post-34285528391596038082007-10-24T03:08:00.000+01:002007-10-24T03:08:00.000+01:00My dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer on April...My dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer on April 23, 2005. He was in heaven on August 22. <BR/><BR/>Through the intervening time, my mom left his care to us. We moved across the country to do it. No questions. Just sold it all and was gone in 3 weeks. <BR/><BR/>The aftermath of his death was magnified a thousand times by her anger. I truly believe it was anger at him for dying and leaving her Kellihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06252445562196825930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15437418.post-12761416427668035422007-10-24T03:04:00.000+01:002007-10-24T03:04:00.000+01:00You are right, we ultimately are not in control of...You are right, we ultimately are not in control of our lives, but we should control what we can - our attitude, how we spend our time, what we accomplish... Thanks for your perspective!Leihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13602022032114765911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15437418.post-79469199469376830642007-10-24T02:40:00.000+01:002007-10-24T02:40:00.000+01:00Linds my friend,It isn't easy...none of it. And m...Linds my friend,<BR/><BR/>It isn't easy...none of it. And my encouragement to you is to allow yourself to actually do the hard work of grieving. You don't always have to be stoic and the solid rock for your family. Take time for you as well. A bit of weeping and wailing and gnashing of teeth might do you a world of good!<BR/><BR/>Still holding you close in thought and prayer...Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08289638969194601415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15437418.post-56855560511806547392007-10-24T00:15:00.000+01:002007-10-24T00:15:00.000+01:00Linds, in some strange way I feel like our souls h...Linds, in some strange way I feel like our souls have touched during this past year of blogging. You're so honest and funny and truthful and sincere and real. I suspect that grieving is still ahead of you and I hope that if I ever face what you have, I will be strong when I need to be and know that it's ok to be weak sometimes.<BR/><BR/>There is so much in your last two paragraphs that I can someone elsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12524255841655400982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15437418.post-26130651090340436242007-10-24T00:00:00.000+01:002007-10-24T00:00:00.000+01:00Wow. Powerful words. You reallly packed a punch ...Wow. Powerful words. You reallly packed a punch with this posting.<BR/><BR/>On a lighter note... one way to break up paragraphs is add a period in the line you want empty but then change the COLOR to the same as your background (in your case white). It will be invisible and give you the line break you want. <BR/><BR/>(Or if you want to get really quirky - instead of just a place holder periodBelladonnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13704410443745252997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15437418.post-73565767201519956202007-10-23T23:38:00.000+01:002007-10-23T23:38:00.000+01:00Oh Linds. What a moving post. I know losing grandp...Oh Linds. What a moving post. <BR/><BR/>I know losing grandparents isn't the same as losing a husband, but I often think that I miss my grandmother, particularly, even more as the years pass, just because it's such a long time since I've seen her. <BR/><BR/>Thinking of you.Pam https://www.blogger.com/profile/12641269043817163165noreply@blogger.com