Tuesday, July 03, 2007

A date to find the answers at last

We have a date at last for the inquest. 10th October. I have been called as a witness too, by the Coroner. I know it seems a while away, but it is a date, and hopefully we will get some answers at last.

When Geoff died, I remember being aghast when I was told that it took 7-10 months to get all the statements in. Well, now it is a year, and finally it looks as though everyone has responded. You can have no idea how relieved I am to finally have a real date for it all to happen. And as this is the week of the anniversary of his death, it is a good time to find out that I will finally be getting a death certificate in the forseeable future. It seems as if everything in my life has been on hold all these months. In a way, it is as though it is all happening again. You know all those people you have to send copies of the death certificate to? Well, they are all out there, waiting for the final one too. It all has to be done again. All those letters. I have not even been able to register his death, a year after the event. It is all vaguely surreal.

10th October.

It has been a wobbly day. Superficially everything is fine. Under the surface? Wobbly. But that is ok.

8 comments:

Susie said...

Linds,
If you don't mind my inquiring: Why does it take so long to get a death certificate? Here, the death certificate is issued immediately after the death (within 3 days at most)
Oct 10 will be here soon (it's my birthday...)
xoxo

Kelli said...

I truly have no words. Just hugs and prayerful support.

Linda said...

I'm glad things are beginning to sort themselves out. It is awful to be in that state of suspended animation. I don't like it a bit.
I've been praying for you Linds. I'm sure you aren't telling the half of how difficult things are right now. You are so sweet and have such a tender heart.
I would love to get my hands on that kid that put up the wire. Marines!! That does sound like a great idea. I don't know how you've done it all this time.
Praying for peace, grace and strength for this week.

Barb said...

It seems ridiculous that it's such a long, drawn out process Linds. I'm sure just finally having a date is a comfort. But I don't understand about the death certificate unless they won't issue one until they confirm cause.

You have an awful lot of upheaval going on right now. I can understand you feeling a little floaty. I'll be glad when this is all settled and behind you.

As for that class I just read about, goodness, yes, call in the Marines!

Morning Glory said...

You have had an excruciating year in so many ways. I was wondering too about the meaning of an inquest and such a long period of time. I hope you don't mind our asking.

PEA said...

Whenever you feel wobbly...we're here to hold you up:-) ((((Linds)))) I can just imagine how hard this past year has been for you but as you said, you finally have a date for the inquest and maybe then you can putit all behind you. xoxo

Crystal said...

I wish I could do or say more but just want you to know that I'm thinking of you and praying that God will walk really close to you in the weeks ahead. (((( HUGS )))

Penless Thoughts said...

I don't have words either, Linds, except I care and I'm glad they have set the date. You know you are in my thoughts and prayers as you walk though another 3 months & 6 days of suspension.
Susan