The dampness is in my bones again, as I sit here writing. The peculiarly British dampness. Ah.....home!
Yesterday was a strange day. One of my Facebook friends from school days back in the dim and distant past died suddenly, and it was a huge shock. He was a year older than me, and way, way too young to die. And that set me off on many dark and chilly paths in my mind. So I wrapped myself in a blanket, fired up 2 recession heaters, and fell asleep on the couch and woke at 1am. That was essentially the end of the sleeping. So I am not operating at full strength today.
You know how we keep things for "special occasions"??? The crystal glasses. The special dinner service. The heirloom table cloth. The silver. The "best" vase. Etc etc etc. Clothes fall into this category too. Things we wear for special events. We all have them. We continue to use the old mugs because they are not chipped or broken, and save the new ones for guests. Do you do this? Most of us do. And I am here today to tell you to STOP RIGHT NOW.
Use them all. Tonight. Use the crystal. The silver. The special plates. Wear that outfit. Who could possibly be more special than you? Or your family? So if something breaks, who cares. So be it. It is a thing, not a person, so use them all up. Make your home and family the special ones, and do not wait. Whatever you do, DO NOT WAIT for that special event. Every day is special.
As I look round my home, I see so many things I keep to use now and then. Why do I do this? What is more special than now? Now. If we wait, they will be left unused. And what on earth is the point of that. We have no idea if we will be here in a day a year a decade. Now is what is important and celebrating the gift of each day is even more so in practical ways. Inherited things are made to be enjoyed, not hidden away. If you want to put that porcelain figurine in the centre of the dining room table tonight, do it. The candles....light them now.
And stop keeping that special nightie for hospital wear. Heaven knows that if you do end up in hospital one day and that is a big "if", someone can rush out and buy another couple of nighties, more suited to survival in hospital together with those delightful white anti thrombosis socks you get to wear.
Sigh. I am on my high horse, it seems. Life can be so incredibly short, you see, and keeping things for "some day" will not create the memories of beauty and delight which we all want to enjoy and have our families enjoy too. So all I really want to say is use everything. Delight in special things. Bake when you feel like baking, and not just for special events. Celebrate. Beauty and special-ness make everyone smile.
Tomorrow is not guaranteed.